Relationships > Friendships

I have tried to change the environment around me by opening the conversation up to greater things, but for some reason it never works out. The conversations are hushed around any mention of the name of “Jesus.” You know, there’s this awkward hush that goes over the group. Everyone tries to act all perfect while discussing church events. It’s. Just. Weird. I know you know exactly what I’m talking about. We’re afraid to be real and discuss real issues, real problems, real life.

A few weeks ago, I prayed with a group of girls. We had transparent talks. We had spontaneous photoshoots and infinite laughs. And as I sat in a room with three other amazing girls, I thought, “This could be normal. This could possibly be the way we all live, the kind of conversations we have, not only with girls but with everyone.” It felt so so good. In today’s society, we can have infinite conversations online and then shy away from real-life relationships. We don’t live to glorify our Creator but to instead glorify ourselves. Our conversations are filled with self-seeking instead of other-seeking. We care more about pointing out other people’s flaws and drama than our own growth.

Today, I got together with another amazing group of girls - that’s where the cover photo is from ;) We gathered together at a cute coffee shop in downtown directly after school. We discussed priorities, the influence they have on our life, and how we can prioritize to get the most from this life. It’s refreshing to sit down for an hour and discuss things that actually matter. This was only our first meeting, and I can’t even imagine what God’s going to do through this group.

Let me give you a little insight into how my mind works. I am constantly searching for ways to establish relationships with people. I want to hear people’s stories. I want to grow with amazing friends. This has been my mission. I don’t want to miss out on a life-changing discussion with someone just because I’m in a bad mood or don’t feel like talking. And I pray daily to be pushed to talk to someone and to form a relationship with someone that everyone views as an outsider. I think so many people value friendship over relationship: they value an on-the-surface thing over a deep-rooted heart connection.

How do we achieve that? How do we achieve a deep-rooted heart connection? This is my personal advice -which I’m trying to pursue and I’m continuing to learn about- chase after them. Love people as much as Jesus loves you. An instagram comment and a Snapchat streak is not a relationship. Conversation is. Learn about people, their story. Listen to what they are thinking. It’s okay to talk to someone that’s not exactly like you, actually it’s really nice. You never know, while seeking after someone else, you may discover a life-changing truth for yourself.

Radically change the way everyone views friendship. Live to love because that’s the only thing we can do. Let them wonder what makes you different.

“Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us...” Ephesians 5:2

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